NICABM – Helping Clients Undo Patterns of Pleasing and Appeasing

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NICABM – Helping Clients Undo Patterns of Pleasing and Appeasing
Working with Please & Appease

The Trauma Response That Can Lock Clients in Patterns of Over-Prioritizing Others’ Needs and Tolerating Mistreatment
When a client has a pattern of chronic people-pleasing, they’re often caught in a near lifelong cycle of over-prioritizing others’ needs.
Now on the surface, this can seem like a good thing – it’s selfless, socially acceptable, and more often than not, it gets rewarded.
But here’s the thing – for many clients, pleasing and appeasing is their default way of protecting themselves from rejection, abandonment, or other types of emotional and physical harm. What’s more . . .
Pleasing and appeasing often starts out as a protective response to trauma.
Trauma researchers now recognize please and appease as one of the alternative defense responses to fight-flight-freeze (you might also hear it referred to as the fawn response).
And similar to all trauma responses, it can bring clients a sense of safety in the short term. The problem is, the longer someone engages in pleasing and appeasing, the more damage it can do.
So how do we help clients stuck in a response that compels them to erase their own needs and wants for the sole purpose of pleasing another person, in order to stave off mistreatment?
We thought this issue was so pervasive that we took this question to 21 of the leading experts in the field. We distilled their sharpest insights and strategies to bring you . . .
Helping Clients Undo Patterns of Pleasing and Appeasing
Key Factors That Set Pleasing and Appeasing Apart from All Other Trauma Responses (And That Can Make It So Tricky to Detect)
Christine Padesky, PhD   Stephen Porges, PhD   Thema Bryant, PhD Shelly Harrell, PhD   Pat Ogden, PhD

One feature of the please and appease response that makes it particularly insidious (and that often reinforces it)
Why clients might not think that their pleasing and appeasing is all that problematic
The counterintuitive sign that your client has a habit of pleasing and appeasing

How to Undo Deeply Engrained Patterns of Pleasing and Appeasing
Stephen Porges, PhD   Deb Dana, LCSW   Rick Hanson, PhD

The approaches we should AVOID when working with please and appease
How to take advantage of neuroplasticity to help clients unlearn habits of pleasing and appeasing
A step-by-step approach to helping clients feel more empowered in saying “yes” and “no” (instead of privileging others’ desires)

Strategies to Help Clients Begin to Unravel Patterns of Pleasing and Appeasing Behavior
Lynn Lyons, LICSW   Terry Real, MSW, LICSW

Joan Borysenko, PhD   Christine Padesky, PhD

How to help clients see that their pleasing and appeasing is doing harm (and get them on board with the idea that change is necessary)
Specific language to help your client unpack how their habits of pleasing and appeasing developed
Strategies to help your client challenge the underlying beliefs that drive their pleasing and appeasing

Key Factors to Consider When Your Client Is Pleasing and Appeasing in Response to a Present Threat

Lynn Lyons, LICSW   Shelly Harrell, PhD   Kelly Wilson, PhD

Rick Hanson, PhD   Chris Willard, PsyD   Ron Siegel, PsyD

Why pleasing and appeasing is sometimes necessary (and what this might mean for your treatment approach)
What NOT to say to a client in an abusive relationship (and what to say instead)
How to navigate a case when a client can’t escape ongoing threat

How Pleasing and Appeasing Can Serve (And Cost) Your Client
Joan Borysenko, PhD   Stan Tatkin, PsyD, MFT   Stephen Porges, PhD

Thema Bryant, PhD   Deany Laliotis, LICSW   Christine Padesky, PhD

Shelly Harrell, PhD   Chris Willard, PsyD   Ron Siegel, PsyD

How to address 2 common misconceptions about the please and appease response
The roots of pleasing and appeasing (and how these behaviors can develop in response to trauma)
3 specific consequences that can come from chronic pleasing and appeasing

Strategies to Help Clients Shift from Pleasing and Appeasing to Setting Healthy Boundaries

Pat Ogden, PhD   Chris Willard, PsyD   Thema Bryant, PhD

Rick Hanson, PhD   Joan Borysenko, PhD   Michael Yapko, PhD

Christine Padesky, PhD   Janina Fisher, PhD

2 common fears your client might have about setting boundaries (and how to help them get past these hang-ups)
Using the “power of maybe” to help ease clients into boundary-setting
Versatile imagery exercises that can help clients maintain boundaries

When Pleasing and Appeasing Overtakes a Client’s Identity (And How to Help Them Reconnect with and Embody Their Values)

Thema Bryant, PhD   Christine Padesky, PhD   Michael Yapko, PhD

Deany Laliotis, LICSW   Shelly Harrell, PhD

Kelly Wilson, PhD   Ellyn Bader, PhD

How to help your client see themselves as more than just a caretaker
2 exercises to help clients reconnect with their interests and values
Strategies to help clients prioritize their values (even when it means upsetting others)

How to Help Clients Differentiate Between Functional and Dysfunctional Pleasing and Appeasing
Terry Real, MSW, LICSW   Miguel Gallardo, PsyD

Stan Tatkin, PsyD   Christine Padesky, PhD

Why practitioners shouldn’t assume that pleasing and appeasing is inherently problematic

Concrete benchmarks to assess whether your client’s pleasing and appeasing is helping or hurting them

Cultural considerations for working with please and appease
How to Respond If You Notice Your Client (Or Yourself) Pleasing and Appeasing During a Session

Thema Bryant, PhD   Deb Dana, LCSW   Lynn Lyons, LICSW

Shelly Harrell, PhD   Ron Siegel, PsyD   Bill O’Hanlon, LMFT

Christine Padesky, PhD   Richard Schwartz, PhD   Chris Willard, PsyD

Why a client’s pleasing and appeasing in session might slip under your radar (and how to guard against it)
How to respond when your client defaults to pleasing and appeasing you in a session
A quick “self-check” for when you find yourself slipping into please and appease behaviors in a client session

For This Short Course, We Brought Together Some of the Top Experts in the Field
PAT OGDEN, PHD

Pioneer in Somatic Psychology; Founder and Director of Sensorimotor Psychotherapy Institute (SPI); Co-founder of the Hakomi Institute; Author of Sensorimotor Psychotherapy: Interventions for Trauma and Attachment.
STEPHEN PORGES, PHD

Developer of Polyvagal Theory; Distinguished University Scientist at the Kinsey Institute at Indiana University Bloomington and Research Professor in the Department of Psychiatry at University of North Carolina Chapel Hill.
RICHARD SCHWARTZ, PHD

Founder of Internal Family Systems (IFS) and The Center for Self Leadership.
SHELLY HARRELL, PHD

Licensed psychologist specializing in multicultural and community psychology; Professor of Psychology in the Graduate School of Education at Pepperdine University.
JANINA FISHER, PHD

Licensed clinical psychologist and Instructor at the Trauma Center, an outpatient clinic and research center founded by Bessel van der Kolk, MD; past president of the New England Society for the Treatment of Trauma and Dissociation.
CHRISTINE PADESKY, PHD

Co-founder of the Center for Cognitive Therapy in Huntington Beach, California; Co-creator of Strengths-Based CBT; Co-author of Mind Over Mood and Collaborative Case Conceptualization.
CHRISTOPHER WILLARD, PSYD

Psychologist and educational consultant specializing in mindfulness; president of the Mindfulness in Education Network; serves on the board of directors at the Institute for Meditation and Psychotherapy.
RON SIEGEL, PSYD

Assistant Professor of Psychology, part time, Harvard Medical School; Author of The Mindfulness Solution: Everyday Practices for Everyday Problems and Sitting Together: Essential Skills for Mindfulness-Based Psychotherapy.
THEMA BRYANT, PHD

Licensed psychologist specializing in relief and empowerment of marginalized persons; Professor of Psychology in the Graduate School of Education at Pepperdine University; author of Thriving in the Wake of Trauma: A Multicultural Guide.
RICK HANSON, PHD

Senior Fellow of the Greater Good Science Center at UC Berkeley; New York Times bestselling author of Hardwiring Happiness and Buddha’s Brain.
JOAN BORYSENKO, PHD

Founder of Mind/Body Health Sciences LLC; Author of New York Times Bestseller Minding the Body, Mending the Mind.
MICHAEL YAPKO, PHD

Leading expert in clinical hypnosis and treating depression; Clinical psychologist and author of 15 books including his newest books, The Discriminating Therapist and Keys to Unlocking Depression.
BILL O’HANLON, LMFT

Co-developer of Solution-Oriented Therapy; Psychotherapist, speaker, and author of Do One Thing Different: Ten Simple Ways to Change Your Life.
TERRY REAL, MSW, LICSW

Founder of the Relational Life Institute; author of I Don’t Want to Talk About It: Overcoming the Secret Legacy of Male Depression and The New Rules of Marriage: What You Need to Make Love Work.
STAN TATKIN, PSYD, MFT

Founder of the PACT Training Institute and developer of a Psychobiological Approach to Couple Therapy (PACT).
DEANY LALIOTIS, LICSW

Director of Training at EMDR Institute; Specialist in treatment of traumatic stress disorders and attachment issues; author of chapters and articles on EMDR therapy.
DEB DANA, LCSW

Coordinator of the Traumatic Stress Research Consortium at the Kinsey Institute; Developer of the Rhythm of Regulation Clinical Training Series; author of Polyvagal Theory in Therapy.
LYNN LYONS, LICSW

Author of Anxious Kids, Anxious Parents: 7 Ways to Stop the Worry Cycle and Raise Courageous & Independent Children, clinical social worker and psychotherapist specializing in anxiety in adults and children.
MIGUEL GALLARDO, PSYD

Licensed Psychologist specializing in multicultural and social justice; Associate Professor at Pepperdine University’s Graduate School of Education and Psychology; author of Case Studies in Multicultural Counseling and Therapy.
KELLY WILSON, PHD

Co-author of Acceptance and Commitment Therapy: An Experiential Approach to Behavior Change; Founder of OneLife Education Training, LLC.
ELLYN BADER, PHD

Co-creator of The Developmental Model of Couples Therapy; Co-director of The Couples Institute.
Course Director
Ruth Buczynski, PhD
Dr. Ruth Buczynski is a licensed psychologist and founder and president of The National Institute for the Clinical Application of Behavioral Medicine (NICABM). NICABM helps physicians, nurses, psychologists, social workers, and counselors – practitioners who have some of the most significant and life-changing missions on the planet – provide cutting-edge, research-based treatment strategies to their patients. For more than 25 years, NICABM has offered accredited training and professional development programs to thousands of practitioners worldwide.
Here’s What You’ll Get:

Everything is yours to keep forever in your professional library

Downloadable videos so you can watch at your convenience, on any device
Audio recordings you can download and listen to at home, in the car, at the gym or wherever you like
Professionally-formatted transcripts of the sessions, to make review and action simple
Three downloadable bonus videos to help you work more effectively with clients who please and appease

Get 3 Bonuses That Give You Even More Strategies for Working with Clients Who Please and Appease
A 6-Step Process to Help Clients Shift Out of Patterns of Pleasing and Appeasing
Christine Padesky, PhD

How to help clients challenge one “hard-and-fast rule” about standing up for themselves
The small experiments that can help clients expand their beliefs about what’s possible
How to use role plays to help clients practice asserting their own opinions

Helping Clients Activate the Power of Creativity to Reclaim a Voice That’s Lost in Chronic People-Pleasing

Joan Borysenko, PhD

Specific languaging to help clients recognize that their pleasing and appeasing is doing more harm than good
One resource to help clients spark more lasting cognitive shifts

Working with Physical Pain That May Be Rooted in Pleasing and Appeasing

Richard Schwartz, PhD

One key question to address the parts of a client that might drive their physical pain
How to shift your client’s attention away from the physical pain and toward the psychological factors that may be fueling their somatic symptoms
How to help clients challenge the social and cultural messages that can reinforce please and appease behaviors

Here’s What Your Peers Have Experienced In NICABM Programs
. . . instrumental in opening my mind and heart to understanding trauma.

“These seminars have been instrumental in opening my mind and heart to understanding trauma. They are brief and accessible and of such high quality that I’ve been able to glean real understanding and a starting point for further study. I can’t say enough about them. I have recommended them to so many of my colleagues and they say the same things I do about them. Thank you Ruth!”
Angela Lawrence, Drug and Alcohol Counselor

British Columbia, Canada
The material covered has . . . fully supported my purpose, enhancing my knowledge of the theories behind the actions taken.

“I am a soldier, who works with other soldiers and their families (The PTSD Retreat), in reference to PTSD. We, as soldiers, are all taught the very basics of PTSD, in what we call “death-by-PowerPoint,” but it never goes beyond this. Indeed, it is repeated over and over, without change, and it rarely if ever gets to the families. The material covered in here has fully supported my purpose, enhancing my knowledge of the theories behind the actions taken. I am so grateful to have been able to follow this series and look forward to furthering my education with this entity. Thank you”
D. Nicole Johnson, Drug and Alcohol Counselor

Starr Founder, The PTSD Retreat
 . . . very cost effective and practical . . .

“These programs offer a broad spectrum of both information and specific guidelines with top experts in different fields of addressing human suffering. All in a very cost effective and practical way. Rather than thousands of dollars spent on the cost of conference I can learn in the comfort of my own home or office, on my own schedule. Certainly recommend any of these series to my colleagues.”
Ian Macnaughton, PhD, Psychotherapist

Vancouver, BC, Canada
 My clients have been able to build their confidence. . .

“My clients have been able to build their confidence in their ability to self-regulate on their own in pretty difficult situations, including work and family of origin situations. Their success has then built their self-esteem as they can see that they can be successful in changing some fairly habitual ways of interacting and hurting themselves. It is a positive cycle that builds upon itself”
Nancy Lasater, MSW, LCSW

Boulder, CO
Why the Transcript Is Essential:

The transcript makes it easy to go back and double check concepts, citations and names that are mentioned
We put in a table of contents to make it easy for you to find the exact part of the webinar you need
Having the concepts already written allows you to take notes on how you’re going to use the ideas rather than transcribing the ideas
Some people simply learn better by reading than by listening or watching
You will be able to print out and share techniques presented in the session with your patients

“I really liked being able to follow along with the transcripts as I listened…it was nice not to feel like I had to take notes. I really feel like I remember more when I both hear and see at the same time.”
Mary Ellen McNaughton, Masters in Counseling, Psychology Counselor

Kelowna, British Colombia, Canada